So you ended the relationship that wasn’t working (or your ex ended it for you), you know this wasn’t a good relationship to begin with, some time has passed by and you still can’t seem to let go. But you really want to have the emotional and spiritual freedom in order to be open to your next relationship. Let’s explore this.
The truth is, nothing will hold you back from attracting new love than unresolved feelings for your ex. And it’s not really about finding someone new quickly, the big issue is that you are still hurting and holding on to your past. So let me share the three possible reasons why you may have hard time letting go.
One, you may still be in love with your ex. It is OK to have feelings for someone you used to be in a close relationship with. They say, if you once loved someone, a part of you will always love them and there is nothing wrong with that. This will not hold you back unless your love for this person is coupled with earning desire to be with them. If this is the case, your only remedy is time. If you still feel like you want to get back together with you ex, even though you know this is not in your highest good, the best thing you can do is take the time away from this person and resist the urge to have any contact with them. However, if it has been more than a year since you broke up and the feelings still persist, something else might be going on.
The other thing that may be happening is you’re still holding on to a limiting belief about yourself and instead of taking responsibility for it, you’re blaming your ex. Whenever you feel resentment or anger at your ex for something you perceive they did to you, you are really blocking yourself not only from love, but from truth as well. Are you mad at him because he broke up with you when you think you should have been the one to end the relationship? Are you blaming him because he was cheating on you or was dishonest with you? Did he hurt your feelings some time ago and you can’t seem to forgive him? If this is the case, I would like to invite you to look at things differently. If this is the case, then your remedy is to really look at the limiting beliefs you have about yourself as a result of what happened. If you still think of yourself as unlovable, worthless, not attractive enough or if you believe that it was somehow your fault the relationship ended, then you actually are the one who is hurting you, not your ex. Forgiveness is your ultimate key in this situation.
The third reason may be that you are simply lonely. You miss the companionship and the intimacy you had when you were in a relationship. And this would naturally cause you to think about the last time you experienced that – the last intimate relationship you had. If that is what’s going on with you, then it is time to get out there and start looking for new love.