Sometimes “Friends” Is A Four Letter Word…

Have you ever had someone you tell you “let’s just be friends” when you obviously wanted more? If friendship is typically considered a great thing, then why does it feel so crappy when certain people offer it to us? Find out from this article what is typically meant by the word “friend” in this particular case.

There are only two times you will hear someone tell you “Let’s be friends.” The first time is when your partner ends the romantic relationship with you and the second time when someone you’re dating doesn’t feel comfortable to take this relationship to the next level. Ironically, when you are actually planning on developing a friendship with someone, these words are rarely used. The friendship typically either naturally unfolds or it does not.

So when you are offered friendship instead of relationship, this person is just letting you know that he or she is not ready for a commitment, but kinda likes you and wants to keep you around. Except that, he is not really being direct about it, which is another red flag and a sign of emotional unavailability. Don’t even think about agreeing to stay friends to this person. First of all, he or she could never possibly offer you a real friendship. Second, if you are hoping for something more than just a friendship with this person, you will never get if you agree to be friends and you are setting yourself up for a disappointment. Finally, and most importantly, when you are agreeing for something less than what you want and deserve you are not truly honoring yourself.

If you want to create a healthy loving relationship that’s based on honesty and trust, it is essential that you first learn how to trust yourself. In other words, you have to be honest with yourself and how you feel. Then, what may be even harder, you have to communicate how you feel about this to your partner (or “friend”). Regardless, whether or not you two end up in a relationship, being honest with each other is a good thing to practice because that’s what will bring the right relationship to you. What feels right in your heart has to be more important than what this other person may think of you.

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