I remember when I was single I was really frustrated with the fact that almost every time I met a guy I liked, ended up already being in a relationship. Petrified by scarcity, I felt all the good ones were already taken. What else could explain this phenomena? Ladies, can you relate to this? Well read on and I will explain why this is happening.
Before I get any further into explaining my theory, let me reassure you, looks have nothing to do with one’s relationship status and not all the good ones are taken. There are plenty of great single guys out there for you, so you can relax now. All you have to do is just try a little bit harder to see them. Yes, single people, especially the ones who genuinely wish to be in a serious relationship, have a tendency to hide more so you don’t see them as much. For those who wish to be in a relationship, being single can feel a bit vulnerable and uncomfortable, which would typically make the person appear less confident. As we all know, confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have, man or woman.
In general, people who are in a happy committed relationship don’t think about dating and they are not looking to hook up with anyone. (it wouldn’t be a good sign if they did) Therefore, it is typically easier for them to flirt, since there is no agenda, they come across more natural and more confident. This is what makes them more attractive. Also, when we have an agenda, other people can an energetic pull from us and that can sometimes feel awkward.
So ladies, here is what I suggest. If you are looking for a good guy, don’t fall for the one who can comfortably flirt with you. He may like you or find you attractive (which I understand is flattering) but this doesn’t mean he has serious intentions about you. I am not dismissing the fact that he can be extremely confident, to the point that he can act natural around a woman he really likes and wants to date. All I am saying is, give the nervous and shy guy a chance.
