Let’s face it, we all want to be in a relationship with someone who is not only attractive to us on all levels but who is willing to commit to us full heartedly. Unfortunately, for many of us we have experienced plenty of either one or the other but not both. Learn from this article exactly what it take to attract someone amazing, irresistible and willing to commit to you.
Too many of us have experienced being attracted to emotionally unavailable people. We know how painful and frustrating it is to try to convince someone who would not fully commit to a relationship with us. Yet, we see other amazing couples out there who form true partnerships we could only dream of. Why is it that it happens to them but not to us? What is it that they’re doing? What does she have that I don’t? What is wrong with me that I cannot attract someone who would love me and be there for me? The truth is, there is nothing wrong with you. You know it deep in your heart that you are a loving wonderful amazing human being with a unique gift. But the truth is there is something you are not doing. You are not making a commitment to yourself.
I know this may sound vague, you may want to argue or you may say that you are committed, but deep in your sub-consciousness there may be a whole different picture happening. You see, those people you know who met in college and have been married to each other for ten, twenty or even more years, made that commitment long time ago without even being aware of it. They have no idea why you are struggling and they don’t understand what you’re going through. They met someone, they fell in love and they made a commitment to each other and that was that.
Let me tell you what my definition of commitment is. Commitment is a choice you make to follow your heart no matter what. And you have to be able to commit to yourself first and foremost before you can commit to anybody else or attract the person who is willing to commit to you. There is a big difference between committing and settling. You settle based on logic and fear. You commit in the face of fear, sometimes even in spite of logic. You make a decision because your heart tells you this feels right. There may be a whole bunch of “buts” coming up for you. “But she is so sexy!” “But he makes so much money.” “I could never find anyone better who would want to be with me so I might as well just go for it.” If you think you are madly in love with this man and you have to wait for days or even weeks for him to call you, you are not committing to this person because deep in your heart you know that his heart is not in you. Deep in your heart you don’t trust him and your heart is most likely telling you to let him go, therefore by the definition of the word commitment you are not committed.
Katherine,
Great work as usual, deep thinking and good suggestions!
Celeste